darwinquark:

I saw an awesome post (think it was ipodchick?) about how extended love triangles never end well and usually end up reflecting worst on the center character, and after agreeing, I realized something about this whole Delena/Stelena bullshit that made me feel bad for Elena for the first time in a…

“Elena, however, has been completely, thoroughly, and utterly destroyed.”

“The entirety of season one, she was such a wonderful lead for the show: smart, endearing, warm, spunky, and truly selfless. I WANTED her to make a selfish decision and keep Stefan in her life because I liked her so much that I wanted to see her happy. Stefan and her were perfect - two people who could and would legitimately save each other. There was no hero/damsel dynamic, they both took turns needing saving from totally different things, and both were capable of being the hero. It was respectful and pure”

“Elena’s strength wasn’t the right kind to handle someone like Damon: it was a quiet strength, the strength of a fighter who manages to love and have hope in spite of overwhelming sadness. It’s a vulnerable strength that a freaking hurricane of dominance and obsessive passion like Damon would bulldoze through and shatter in a heartbeat.”

“Elena needs support, not conflict, because she has a broken life, and to me, all Stefan did was support and bolster her. That’s why I loved them. Damon, to me, makes her crumble.”

“Over the seasons, she’s been reduced to six incredibly selfish words - ‘I don’t know what I feel’ - that sound NOTHING like the girl that immediately gave up Stefan, the only thing happy about her life, for a while because of the danger it could bring to her loved ones.”